Valentine's Day is Coming


I <3 you.


Will U B Mine?


UR HOT <-- yes. that's on a candy. :D Try explaining that one to a five year old. *eyeroll* ...that means you think someone is really goodlooking. Like good enough to...get all sweaty with. *eyeroll*

Still, I can't help but like this holiday...for a couple of reasons.

6) I LOVE CHOCOLATE!
5) Life is good.
4) I love my career.
3) I love my kids.
2) I'm IN love with Matt.
and
1) God is Love.

So there.
What do you look forward to this weekend?

P.S. Necco also rules.

Pencil Sharpeners

My husband and I have been ranting against the pencil market for years.

I buy these cheap little sharpeners, the kind that you turn with your hand, shhhiirk, shhhiirk. The pencils are so cheap, the lead breaks with every turn... so annoying!

Then the sharpener breaks--the hinge on the lid, the transparent shaving catcher cracks...you name it, it happens. Overall, we've spent at least ten dollars on cheap little sharpeners.

Then last week, we bought a six dollar desktop sharpener. The kind that sucks to the desktop and has industrial strength grinders. The kind with a handle like used to hang on the wall inside your classroom door. It's wonderful. Why didn't we do this years ago?





Pleased as Punch

Did you know that saying comes from The Punch and Judy Show? Puppets from an era long gone. :D Cool.

I received another request and have my fingers crossed.

The novella I'm writing stalled in the eleventh hour. I get to the end of a manuscript, and I must hate to see it end, because it can take me a few weeks to get the last couple of chapters down. Weird. I must force myself...but there seems to be better things to do.

And this week there are better things! It's been a busy week.
Hope your weeks are just as life-filled as mine.
With Love,
Bethanne

The End of the Hero

THANK YOU EVERYONE WHO FOLLOWED ME THROUGH MY HEROES SERIES! It was fun and enlightening for me. Don't miss the last post over at Penny's Blog--Lifetime to Love.

Also if you ever hear me say, "my hubby and I are going shopping this week," remind me that I LIKE TO SHOP ALONE! It's not him, it's me. See, I hate to shop as it is. I really do. Add in my husband and for some reason, I can't handle it. My mind goes a little crazy, I act crazy...

NOT GOOD! Yesterday we went shopping for a few clothing items. I ended up buying something I didn't really want. I don't know why. It was cheapest? I thought I would like it? Last night I put that sweatshirt on--something to lounge around in--and was not happy. The zipper was stiff, I couldn't relax. It did look nice, maybe just too nice.

Going back to the store with a Christmas item I wanted to return [thank God I didn't bring that with me yesterday], I also returned the sweatshirt I'd bought just 24 hours earlier and found one I could get comfortable in. A nice hoodie, no zipper. Yay! It was so relaxing! By myself.... *sigh*

Oh one last thing before I sign off for the weekend. Matt shaved his facial hair! All of it, gone! He had to get a picture for his Army profile/folder/permanent record. The last time we saw his upper lip was about 8 years ago. And let me tell you, 8 years ago it was three days before he had a 5 o'clock shadow. Not now. :D It's 2 o'clock and he's already looking ruggedly handsome. ;)

Heroes -- The Series

The Daredevil, a close relative to the Bad Boy, think Bohdi in Point Break--one because who doesn't want to think about Patrick Swayze? And two, because he kind of fits the bill. Not only does he have this extreme surfing, devil-may-care scenario, he's decided life just isn't interesting enough and becomes a thief, too.



So, let's move our Daredevil into the romance novel. He's the hero who isn't going to think twice, who might hurt the heroine before they reach the Happily Ever After, but somehow can be forgiven. Taking extremes is part of his nature.

Actually this reminds me of a story of a MotorCross [I think] racer who died, leaving his family behind. So, right... that doesn't actually represent the romance novel, but I think if we spin real life to fit into our make-believe, this is the guy you'd have. And when he dies, everyone says, "He died doing what he loved." As if that makes it better... then again, maybe it does.


See [I'm going to get philosophical on you], we all die. If you think about it that way, why not die doing something you love? Like surfing or bike racing or pirateering--okay, that one's definitely from a romance novel. As a matter of fact, read The Iron Rose by Marsha Canham. It is one of my all-time favorite romance pirate stories. The opening scene in that book IS daredevil. It's a hero with a flare for style who takes ships as a hobby... until he unwittingly takes the heroine's ship!! :D

ONE MORE DAY! Join me either tomorrow or Thursday at Penny's blog as I wrap up my series on HEROES talking about the warrior. Thanks for being here.

With Love,

Bethanne

Heroes -- The Series


The Tycoon
Yes, the tall, dark, handsome and RICH.

The reason I find this character so complicated is because I really don't want to like him. I know that sounds odd, but to me rich has often meant snobbish, aloof, self-centered. Perhaps that's what makes a good Tycoon hero so intriguing. The heroine has dug past the stereotypes to find something more. The more important aspect of the Tycoon is his jaded outlook on life. He's got everything money can buy...

Why can't he find someone to love him for himself?
My favorite scenario is the Tycoon in disguise. Believe me, the woman who resents all things rich and wealthy is the woman who finally falls in love with the Tycoon. And when she finds out he is rich, she dumps him like a sack of hot potatoes... which of course, proves to him he is right to be jaded. Love doesn't exist.

*sigh*

Great story line there. I can't help but picture Cary Grant as a Tycoon.


On Monday check out Penny's blog for the next installment, The Protector.

Heroes -- The Series

You might think that women would be tired of the Apha Hero. He's demanding. He doesn't explain himself or any of his actions. He's overprotective and hardly cares to hear if you've got a better idea....


The perfect example--Han Solo. Now I say this because heroes have become a little more complex over the last twenty years. Alphas showing signs of Beta, Betas showing signs of Tortured. Somehow, because of this I've spent the last twenty minutes wracking my brain for a good example. Han is a loner.

According to Modernman.com, an alpha male, upon entering a room, will assume high status, take on the role of the leader (or at least one of the leaders) and simply expect others to follow him and show him respect. Oh hey! I think I married one of these!!! :D Although, like a good leader, mine will look for the one who is ACTUALLY in charge instead of being an ass. One of the aspects that separates my hubby from being a beta is that he'll leave if he doesn't like what the other leader is demanding. A beta would NOT do this. :D

Look to your books for the best examples of a true Alpha Male. Elizabeth Lowell and Christina Dodd write alpha males that any romance reader can appreciate. Read about Archer Donovan in Lowell's Pearl Cove or Jasha Wilde(yes, we heard about him yesterday at Penny's blog, too) in Dodd's Scent of Darkness. You won't be sorry.

Heroes -- The Series

The Bad Boy Hero

I can't do this post without featuring James Dean.




The original bad boy hero.

The idea behind behind the bad boy is that there's a kernal of good. Right?

Somehow the combination of that smidgen of good is just enough to force the bad boy into the Knight in Shining Armor.

My theory, though is that the bad boy is more misunderstood than really bad. I mean, come on. Is your heroine going to fall in love with a coldhearted killer? A deadbeat, wino, drugdealer? No.

The thing about that heroine that makes her special is her understanding of the hero. He doesn't trust it at first because there's been no one else, but of course, in the length of the novel, the Bad Boy Hero finally finds contentment and peace...and love. :D Yay love!

My all time favorite Bad Boy?

Ren McCormack. He's defiant. He's goodlooking. He can dance... :D

For what it's worth, the bad boy can be combined with any of the other hero types we in our list. The bad boy might be a beta or an alpha, tortured or a tycoon....

Because of characters played by James Dean, the bad boy has earned his own label.

Don't forget to visit Penny Dune's blog, A Lifetime to Love where she's going to talk about the Paranormal Hero.

Request!

I hate to blog over my lovely Hero Post, but I just had to let you know that I received a request for a partial of my ms that is being subbed out to literary agencies. *big grin* It's a real boost in morale, I tell you. It's a glimmer of hope.

I know there are no guarantees. It's certainly not the same as getting an offer for representation, but it's a BIG step. Someone actually read the words of my letter and thought, "huh, that could be interesting." Eeeeeeeek! *breathe*

Also, I have a big mouth, so I'm just going to say it now. Penny is me. I mean, I made her up for my 'other' blog... I just, got bored one day. And while writing on my current manuscript the name just came to me and I could see it in big letters across the cover of a book. I have no plans for Penny just yet. Except she's going to talk about Beta Heroes...

It's just fun to play.
:) Big hugs and Love,
Bethanne

Heroes -- The Series

Doing a series about heroes will be a gas, so I've teamed up with writing friend and partner, Penny Dune, to highlight the best of what makes a hero and to share some of our own writingly insights.

"So what," you say?


There will be PICTURES! :D

I'm starting with my favorite, The Tortured Hero. Keira at Romance Love Passion calls him the Brooding Hero, but I like tortured better. When I hear the word brood, I think sulky and Maximus Decimus Meridias was NOT a sulker. :D

The storyteller for Gladiator immediately wraps every woman around his finger by opening the story in Max's home. The heartfelt goodbye, the noble duty... and finally the agony. I mean, what woman doesn't want to think that if she is dead, her lover will wreak vengeance on everyone involved? It's so romantic. [okay, yes, i'm chuckling a little, but we all have our fantasies. *wink*]

William Wallace gave us this in Braveheart, another movie that just pulls on all the right strings. Course, Gibson is no where near as nice looking as Crowe, but... since this isn't a blog post about looks, I'll move on. :D

Okay, one more picture of a tortured hero. Though not a main character, Gabriel Martin's story held my attention in this epic saga about the Civil War. The thing is, you're actually glad when the tortured hero dies... I think that's a key element in all of these movies. Though it isn't the death I'm wishing for, it's the reunion...in a tradedy, they can't always be separated.


It's the emotion that a tortured hero evokes that leaves that mark in our minds. I think we want to do that in our books, as well. Nora Roberts did this in Public Secrets. Her primary, secondary--really the story was intricate, there were actually two heroes--hero, Brian was a tortured mess! I LOVED IT! Still my all time favorite book.

Check out Penny's blog in another day or two, and she'll be featuring the next hero in our series... The Beta Hero--everybody loves a nerd at least once in their life.


Haiti Relief



Send Aid to Haiti ...this excerpt is taken directly from the dLife Foundation webpage listed below.


The January 12, 2010, 7.0-magnitude earthquake in Haiti has unleashed a global outpouring of help. However, the need continues to outweigh the resources. The death toll from the devastating quake could be between 45,000 and 50,000, with another three million people hurt or homeless, according to the Haitian Red Cross. And for Haitians living with diabetes and other chronic health conditions, the situation is even worse, with hospitals in ruin and medical care virtually non-existent.

You can help.

To contribute, visit one of these sites:

Americares
AmeriCares is a nonprofit disaster relief and humanitarian aid organization which provides immediate response to emergency medical needs – and supports long-term humanitarian assistance programs – for all people around the world, irrespective of race, creed or political persuasion.

DirectRelief.org
Direct Relief International provides medical assistance to improve the quality of life for people affected by poverty, disaster, and civil unrest at home and throughout the world.

Doctors Without Borders
Doctors Without Borders/Médecins Sans Frontières (MSF) is an international medical humanitarian organization created by doctors and journalists in France in 1971.


dLife Foundation
The dLife Foundation supports individuals who are in need of diabetes supplies, education, and motivational programs through organizations, foundations and camps. The dLife Foundation also funds diabetes organizations who share our goals of helping those in need. Now through March 31, 2010, all donations to the dLife Foundation will go directly to relief organizations assisting those in medical need in Haiti.


Insulin for Life
Insulin For Life (IFL) is a tax-exempt, not-for-profit company registered in the state of Victoria, Australia that was established in 1999. It evolved from the 20-year program at the International Diabetes Institute, Australia. The organization collects and donates insulin, syringes, test strips and other supplies to people in urgent need, including victims of natural disasters such as the Haiti earthquake.


Partners in Health
PIH was founded in 1987, two years after the Clinique Bon Sauveur was set up in Cange, Haiti, to deliver health care to the residents of the mountainous Central Plateau. PIH co-founders had been working in the area for years. The Clinic was just the first of an arc of successful projects designed to address the health care needs of the residents of the poorest area in Haiti. In the 20 years since then, PIH has expanded its operations to eight other sites in Haiti and nine additional countries.

Red Cross
Since its founding in 1881 by visionary leader Clara Barton, the American Red Cross has been the nation's premier emergency response organization. As part of a worldwide movement that offers neutral humanitarian care to the victims of war, the American Red Cross distinguishes itself by also aiding victims of devastating natural disasters. Over the years, the organization has expanded its services, always with the aim of preventing and relieving suffering. You can also help the Red Cross with an instant donation by texting "Haiti" to 90999. 100% of your $10 donation will go to earthquake relief efforts in Haiti.

UNICEF
UNICEF was created with this purpose in mind – to work with others to overcome the obstacles that poverty, violence, disease and discrimination place in a child’s path. The organization has mobilized to provide basic medical and health supplies, family kits/shelter and water hygiene and sanitation supplies to victims of the Haiti quake.

Jumping Jacks

I can't do 2 minutes of jumping jacks.
It sounds crazy to me. If you had asked me before I started on this Wii Fitness craze, I would have said "Yes, I can." I'm active and 2 minutes seems short.

It's NOT!!

Holy mackeral. The Wii wanted me to record my resting pulse then my pulse after exercising. Yikes. After a minute I ended up waving my arms while I ran in place. By the time I was finished, I was breathing so hard and loud, I couldn't hear to feel my pulse.... yes, I said that. Why does it need to be quiet to FEEL your pulse? :D

Here's to improvement! Cheers!

Romantic Suspense

I read it.
I love it.
It's such a release, a pleasure to read a story in which the stakes are so high, not only is the happily ever after at risk, life is also at risk. When you add a hunky hero who not only likes dogs, but treats the heroine with respect... well, what's not to enjoy?

You know what I love? I love when the hero and heroine spar and banter through the first 2/3rds of the book. There's the attraction, the mutual respect, but maybe one's a liberal and one's a conservative... or maybe one is an artist and the other is practical. They clash, but more, they aren't bored. And who wants to be with someone who bores them?! Not me!!

Add the external conflict. Whether international terrorist or the boy-next-door sociopath/psychopath, things always get interesting!

Can I just tell you, I'd rather be in my books than contemplating all the crappy things in life--like divorce and cancer. When it's time to sit back and take pleasure in the joys this world has to offer... besides my family and friends, I'll read a romantic suspense novel.

What about you? Tell me what brings you joy when life makes you think, WTF?
With love,
Bethanne

Query Writing

The DREAD!
The AGONY!
The NECESSITY....
and finally, the ecstasy.

Yes, that's right. The letter that all my hopes and dreams are hinged upon.
Luckily, I had an angel reach out to me this week. Actually I have several angels... this one was different. She hadn't read my story. She didn't know my characters...or me.

Consequently, she made some really good points.

And my query letter is being rewritten...and, yeah, I think it's better. *fingerscrossed*
Wish me luck.
With Love,
Bethanne

Christmas--officially over

I celebrated Little Christmas, The Epiphany... the twelfth day, whatever you want to call it on Sunday. I knew with school back in session, it would be better to have my tree down over the weekend, so Saturday morning while the kids sat around playing games, I meticulously undressed the tree[okay, I pulled stuff off and put it in plastic Walmart bags according to fragility]. I leave the ribbons on as a sacrifice... for the coming year and our next Christmas tree. May it have a straight trunk.

I was looking forward to that empty space because I wanted to pull out the card table and do a jigsaw puzzle. My hubby and I have a collection of framed puzzles that we've done over the years. We haven't completed one in at least two years. So, that will be a GREAT winter activity! Alas, guess what finally came out of the living room this morning?

The Christmas Tree!

Haha. Oh well. It's out now.... I vacuumed and have my card table all ready to go. I'll start tonight while I watch a new episode of Castle.

Speaking of Castle. I got his book for christmas!!! My cousin must have done some chatting with my sister. I think it's my favorite present of all. I love the show!!! [and as a tribute to Monday Reviews...] The book is alright. I would love to know who actually wrote it. Richard Castle aka Nathan Fillion from the ABC show is obviously not the writer...or, maybe he is? It's a fun idea, having a book written by a TV character that is actually sold in bookstores. When it came out in November [or October, can't remember], I was pretty psyched about it. So, THANK YOU Rob Elmen!!! You're the best cousin gift figure outer of all!
Great week to everyone,
With love,
Bethanne